Why Are Women Attracted to Bad Boys
“Why can’t I just find a nice guy to date?” How many times have we heard women repeat this line?
Women might consciously think they want a “nice guy.” But deep down, they are super attracted to guys with bad boy traits.
They can’t help it.
They are hard-wired to want the bad boy. Even though they know that dating a bad boy will only lead to drama and heartbreak, there is something about a bad boy women just can’t resist. Why is this the case?
Bad Boy Traits Women Find Desirable
Here we give you ten reasons women are attracted to men with bad boy traits:
1. Bad Boys Are More Fun
Bad boys like to live life on the edge. They are adventurous, spontaneous and make spur-of-the-moment decisions.
Their innate confidence means they rarely second-guess themselves, and this “living life with no regrets” attitude is very attractive to a lot of women.
2. Bad Boys Are More Attractive
Whether they are dressed in ripped jeans and a leather motorcycle jacket, or rocking a three-piece suit complete with tie and pocket square, bad boys can pull off just about any look effortlessly and confidently.
They can get down and dirty or clean up very well.
Either way, they are irresistible to women.
3. It’s Science And Evolution
Women are hard-wired to seek out dominant men who are both protectors and providers.
We’re not saying that’s necessarily how it should work. It’s just simply human biology and is the way that it is. They want to know that a man will fight a predator and will provide for them.
4. Bad Boys Boost a Woman’s Ego
Bad boys will give a woman the attention that she craves without being clingy or needy like an overly “nice guy.”
Because bad boys are generally players who aren’t looking to be in a relationship for the long haul, interactions with them are kind of like seeing a shooting star – exciting and intense, but fleeting.
5. She Doesn’t Have To Be a “Good Girl”
Robyn McKay, author of the book Smart Girls in the 21st Century: Understanding Talented Girls and Women, says — “Girls possess a range of traits, like rebelliousness. These traits are typically repressed during childhood, as females are socialized to be compliant and agreeable. If a girl’s inner life is unexpressed, she may be drawn to a bad boy as a way of vicariously expressing her own inner rebel.”
It makes total sense, doesn’t it? Because society expects women to be submissive to men and to be “good girls.” But dating a bad boy can free women from feeling they need to act in a specific way.
They may be longing to just simply let loose and not be restrained by societal norms. So they can embrace their “bad girl” side as well. And that can be extremely liberating.
6. Women Think They Can Change Him
Many women think they can “change” their bad boy into a “nice guy” with enough love and the right techniques. However, this belief is highly likely to not only be unsuccessful, but to backfire on a woman.
Converting a bad boy puts a woman in a difficult, if not impossible situation. After all, if a woman were successful in “taming” her bad boy, he would no longer be the sexy guy she found so attractive to begin with.
7. They Love The Drama
Bad boys enjoy playing with women’s minds and hearts.
They will keep a woman waiting and rarely will they give her a straightforward answer. They will give the girl just enough attention to keep her on the hook, and will stir up trouble from time to time just to keep things interesting.
Lots of women apparently get off on the excitement and drama these types of relationships provide.
8. They Have Low Self-Esteem
Bad boys tends towards being naturally narcissistic and possess a high degree of self-importance.
Science has proven that people who are attracted to narcissists are generally people who have very low self-esteem.
Because people with low self-esteem generally don’t get the validation they so desperately desire from others, having a bad boy give them attention and making them feel desired is the ultimate confidence-booster.
9. Bad boys Make Women Feel More Secure
It’s fairly obvious, isn’t it? Women who date bad boys have pretty much nothing to fear when out and about.
Dating a bad boy is kinda like having a personal bodyguard. Because of the bad boy’s devil-may-care attitude, he is likely to take risks to protect his date in nearly any situation.
This makes the girl feel secure and protected as well as feminine.
10. They Like To Rebel Against Society
What woman doesn’t feel sexier and more confident when, say, on the back of a Harley-Davidson with her arms wrapped firmly around her bad-ass bad-boy biker dude?
How to Be a “Bad Boy”
The ultimate aphrodisiac for a woman is a guy who has a cool and tough exterior, but who is kind of a marshmallow on the inside – at least when he is with her.
So if you’re a “nice guy” looking to up your “bad boy” game, here are some bad boy traits to adopt to help you achieve that goal.
1. Have an Aura of Danger, Mystery and Excitement
Bad boys have strong opinions, and they’re not afraid to state them out loud. They are not going to change their opinion because they might impress or offend anyone. They are big fans of telling it like it is.
So be you, authentically, always. Don’t be afraid to say what you think or to take risks. Women find that shit seriously attractive. Don’t hold back because you’re afraid of offending her.
2. Know What You Want and Go After It
Bad boys don’t require permission from anyone. Have you ever seen a bad boy character in the movies ask their date if they can kiss her? Absolutely not.
That’s what simps do and that’s some total Beta male behavior.
They know the girl likes them, so they simply pull her closer and kiss her with total confidence.
The difference is that some guys wait to be given permission and others give themselves that permission.
3. Exhibit Confident Body Language
Everything about a bad boy’s body language screams confidence. They hold their heads high, back straight, shoulders back and chest out. They also take up a lot of space by sitting with their legs open or having their arms stretched across the back of the sofa.
They are not shrinking, they intentionally take up space in the world.
So don’t be afraid to go out and take up space in the world! It will surely get you noticed.
4. Don’t Be Afraid of Rejection
Bad boys couldn’t care less if a woman rejects their advances. They have so many more women they can choose from, rejection is almost a positive thing for them.
They know that they don’t need to waste any more time on a woman who’s not enthralled to be with them.
So consider every rejection from a woman a learning experience, and let it be your guide to figure out which character traits you need to work on.
Bad Boy Traits to Adopt
- Bad boys are unapologetically themselves
They know who they are and they don’t care if you like them or not. Their high opinion of themselves does not rely on the opinion of anyone else. It’s a great trait to have.
- Bad boys possess supreme confidence
And as we’ve mentioned several times throughout this article, there are fewer things sexier to a female than an uber-confident male.
It doesn’t even matter if you’re not a “10” on the looks scale, what kind of job you have or how much money you make. If you give off an air of total cool and confidence, women WILL be attracted to you.
- Bad boys can be somewhat selfish
Not selfish in the mean and petty sense. But bad boys put themselves and their needs first and have clear boundaries that essentially command respect from women and men alike.
Unlike a “too-nice” guy who will bend over backwards spending all his time, energy and money to a girl he’s trying to win over, the bad boy doesn’t try that hard. Because he doesn’t have to. He is naturally a chick magnet.
So by all means, be kind and respectful to the girl you’re interested in. But don’t be her doormat. She will respect you more and your value will increase in her eyes.
- Bad boys are players
We’re not telling you to go out and bang everything on two legs.
But why are bad boys so attractive to women? Because women know that this type of man can have basically any woman he chooses – and he chose her.
There’s an unmistakable air of confidence about the man who knows he has his pick of the litter when it comes to women. Women know he will be good in bed because he’s had experience.
So while we’re not saying you should be a man-whore, we are telling you that you should definitely get some notches on your belt, sexually-speaking.
Of course you should always play it safe and use protection, but sex is pretty much the same as any other learned skill: PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT. (Or at least a lot better than a virgin)
- Bad boys have a sense of entitlement
When we say “entitlement,” what we really mean is that bad boys know their worth, and understand that they are deserving of respect, and expect it from everyone they meet.
It all circles back to that confidence that bad boys have, and that women respect and are attracted to.
So, don’t be that shy timid guy who kowtows to everyone he meets.
Likewise, don’t be a dick. Just work on cultivating that calm but strong persona that quietly shouts, “I am a bad boy and I have big dick energy,” and see how well women react to that.
Nice Guy Vs. Bad Boy
When it comes to dating, respect is necessary for any sort of mutual attraction to occur. It’s pretty much impossible to be attracted to someone you don’t respect.
If you’re one of the “nice guys” who can’t seem to say no, you are also likely to be very generous with your attention, time and money. But will you get respect from the women you’re interested in?
You’re probably going to end up being walked on and treated like a doormat because of your lack of both boundaries and self-respect.
And guess what else?
You will probably be dumped in short order for – you guessed it – one of the more selfish guys that exhibit bad boy traits.
Or, equally as bad, you will find yourself dumped squarely in the dreaded “friend zone” by these women, who will use you as a sounding board to vent her frustrations about her latest bad-boy crush.
So don’t be that typical nice guy and learn to set and adhere to some healthy boundaries and have some respect for yourself.
We’re not saying don’t be nice. We are just saying that you shouldn’t allow a woman to take advantage of you for what you can offer her, because you just might find yourself discarded like last night’s empty pizza box when that more attractive “bad boy” option rolls into her life.
We cannot stress this point enough:
WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US.
So if you can’t hold yourself in high regard, no one else is going to want to do it for you.
One of the main reasons women are attracted to bad boys is their confidence. And women just love self-confidence in men.
Confidence is the main trait and characteristic of a bad boy.
Bad boys are also adventuresome and not afraid of taking risks. They really don’t care what others think of them. They like to ignore the rules and make their own. And that attitude makes them extremely hot to women.
It’s interesting to note that history still attributes dangerous behavior primarily to men. Our society generally still views aggressive and dominant behavior as attributes of a “real man.” Whether that’s true or not, “manly men” still seem to be bagging way more women than sissified “Beta males.”
And that is why in the dating world, confident bad boys are light-years ahead of the nice guys.