How To Arouse a Woman Verbally (And Every Other Way)


We know, of course, that men and women are different animals, and we get sexually aroused by different things. But it’s much less complicated for a man than for a woman. Usually, the sight of a naked female body is all a guy needs, and he’s ready to go. For a woman, however, it’s a bit trickier. If you’re wondering how to arouse a woman verbally and turn her on sexually you’ve come to the right place.

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Let’s get to it.

How To Arouse a Woman Verbally

Before we suggest WHAT to say, let’s first discuss HOW to say it.

How to arouse a woman verbally is one of those things where in order to do it successfully you must do it with “style”.

It helps if you try to use your deepest-sounding voice when you talk to your girl. Studies have shown that women are more attracted to men with deep voices, and as a result, men with deep voices get more sexual partners than guys with higher voices.

This doesn’t mean you should try to sound like Barry White, or to lower your voice to the point that it sounds unnatural. But if your voice naturally has a higher-pitched tone, try to bring it down to a lower register when you’re talking to your girl.

When you start talking to her, set the mood by saying things like “I’ve been thinking about you all day,” or “I couldn’t concentrate at work because you kept running through my mind.” It helps if the two of you are alone or in a private, intimate environment.

Other things you can say are: “I missed you today,” or “You look gorgeous, as usual.”

Keep it short and sweet; a lot of gushing over-the-top compliments might feel contrived or disingenuous to her.

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Arouse Her Verbally With Compliments

Give her compliments, when appropriate. But keep the compliments sincere, and don’t overdo them or you are likely to come off as really cheesy, with a whiff of desperation.

Something simple like “I couldn’t get your sexy smile out of my mind all day” should do the trick.

Keep the conversation going by asking questions about her and showing interest in her answers. Remember that a woman’s brain is her biggest sexual organ, and the more you appeal to her brain, the more likely you are to get into her bed.

Compliment her eyes, or her hair, or her cute dimples.

You can gradually make your compliments sexier, if she appears receptive to it. If she blushes and giggles while playfully protesting, you know you’re on the right track.

Start describing some sexy (but not too “dirty”) things you want to do to her. Be creative and use lots of imagery. Her imagination will do the rest.

Examples on How To Arouse a Woman Verbally

A few examples on how to arouse a woman verbally include:

“I wish we were together. I’d love to massage your back and run my fingers through your hair.”

“I want to lie next to you and trace my fingers over your gorgeous body.”

“You’re the first thing I thought about when I woke up this morning. I was wishing you were curled up next to me in bed. That would make me really happy.”

When you really want to turn up the heat, there are three simple words that are almost guaranteed to arouse your girl:

“I want you.”

As things progress between the two of you, you can start to compliment your girl’s body in more of a PG-13 way. As long as you’re confident that she’s into you and this is what she wants, you can start complimenting her legs, hips, chest, or butt.

Speaking of “butts,” be very careful not to offend her with these racier compliments.

Here are some things you can say:

  • “That blouse makes your chest look amazing.”
  • “Your legs look so sexy in that skirt.”
  • “Your butt looks really cute in those jeans.”

Once you feel like this girl is both receptive and appreciative of your compliments, you can gain enough confidence to tell her how aroused you are by just the sight of her. She’s likely to be equally aroused at the thought of her turning you on just by being around you.

Here are a few simple phrases you can use to get her motor running:

  • “I am so turned on just by being around you.”
  • “You make me so excited.”
  • “Just looking at you turns me on.”
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How To Arouse a Woman Physically

Before we dive in here, we implore you guys: don’t try any of the following techniques unless you are sure this girl is attracted to you and is already comfortable with you and your touch.

That’s because if you start touching this girl too soon too often, before you’re sure she’s ready for it, you are going to turn her OFF instead of on.

Rather than becoming aroused, she’s likely to think you’re creepy and might even be afraid of you. So go slowly, and avoid coming on too strong.

You can create attraction on your date by touching her gently and occasionally in places where it’s acceptable to do so in public: a light touch on her arm, hand or shoulder. Or perhaps guiding her gently through the door of the restaurant, with your hand resting lightly on the small of her back.

As the date progresses and you feel she’s receptive, you can slowly increase the frequency and intensity of your touches.

Above all, you must have dominance and confidence when trying to arouse your girl through touch. You need to be firm and decisive in your movements. Remember that if you hesitate or seem wishy-washy it’s only likely to turn her off.

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Here are a few other tips to arouse a girl physically:

  • Hug her from behind and gently kiss her neck.
  • Nibble gently on her earlobes (the earlobes are chock-full of sensitive nerve endings).
  • Run your fingers through her hair, or even tug on her hair gently but firmly.

It goes without saying that if things have progressed to the point where you’re ready to have sex, most women are aroused by you touching their breasts, nipples, butt, and vulva. But you’ll have to experiment to find out what other erogenous zones turn this girl on.

Some girls might love it if you massage their feet and run your hands up their legs to their inner thighs. Some women are turned on if you kiss and caress the inside of their wrists, or the back or their knees. Some girls love to have their eyelids and forehead gently kissed.

Every part of a woman’s body can be sensitive and responsive to the touch, but each girl is different and where and how she likes to be touched will be different as well.

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How To Arouse a Woman Over Text

One of the first lessons we want to emphasize when texting with your girl is this: do NOT start off the conversation with an overtly-sexual opening line.

And we shouldn’t need to tell you this either, but save the dick pics for later.

Like, a lot later.

No matter if you’re hung like King Kong, it’s a bad idea, and very few women want to see your throbbing erect member before they barely know your name and what you do for a living.

Instead, as mothers will often say to frustrated toddlers, “Use your words.” And even though arousing your girl with words is best done in person, let’s face it: we communicate these days primarily through text, and smartphones are here to stay.

So, use humor, and subtly sexy text messages to let her know you are thinking of her and can’t wait to see her again. Don’t be dirty and crass, but do leave enough sexy subtext so that she is as excited to see you as you are to see her.

Keep it simple and sweet, and don’t blow up her phone. The trick is to leave her wanting more, not to overwhelm her by constantly calling and texting.

Here are a few examples of some lines you might try:

“You looked so gorgeous last night. I can hardly wait to see you again.”

“Every time I close my eyes, all I can picture is your incredible body.”

“Last night was so amazing. I had such a great time. Can’t wait to hold you in my arms again.”

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How To Arouse a Woman With Body Language

Even before you actually attempt to touch a girl on a date, there are many ways you can start to attract her and turn her on just by using certain body language techniques.

While you are conversing with her or just listening to her speak, it’s very important to hold and maintain eye contact with her for 10 to 15 seconds.

This will show her you are interested in what she has to say.

But break the eye contact for a few seconds periodically, because you don’t want to freak her out by staring intently at her like some kind of creepy stalker.

Mimicry is another subtle body language technique that can help to arouse your girl. It simply means mirroring her movements and gestures.

For example, if she tilts her head to the side when looking at you, or rests her chin in her hand, you do the same. Women will unconsciously perform small movements when they are attracted to you, like touching their hair or lips, leaning closer to you, and smiling a lot.

Try not to be overly-obvious, but mimicking these subtle gestures is definitely a non-verbal way to turn your girl on.

While she is talking to you, try raising your eyebrows and smiling a secret, almost wicked little smile periodically, as if the two of you know something the rest of the world doesn’t.

This helps to create intimacy and definitely lets her know you are into her.

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Final Thoughts

Women are complex creatures, and there are many different ways to get them sexually aroused. Unlike men, who are primarily visual beings, a woman isn’t necessarily going to get immediately turned on by the sight of your naked body.

By employing some of the techniques we’ve shown you here on how to arouse a woman verbally, you will greatly increase your chances of getting this girl aroused and into bed with you – or even to make her your girlfriend, if that’s what you’re aiming for.

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