How to Make a Girl Like You Over Text: Easy To Follow Guide


Over the past year dating in person has been extremely difficult. Restaurants have had difficult restrictions, popular hangout spots have been closed and people have been hesitant to meet in person. As a result, men have had to rely on texting through dating apps and other means in order to pick up girls. Now, more than ever, it’s important to know how to flirt over messages, and how to make a girl like you over text.

Even outside of the Coronavirus pandemic your texting game could be the difference between securing a first date and getting friend-zoned. The key to getting a girl to like you over text is to make her smile and keep things light-hearted. While this may seem simple enough, there is a definite art to successfully texting a girl. Here are a few tips on how to successfully attract a girl and make her like you over text.

Start with a Fun Introduction

Most girls see texting as a form of entertainment. Therefore a simple “Hi, how are you doing?” text is not a great way to start off a conversation. You need to have a clever introduction that starts an interesting conversation from the minute you start texting.

Speaking for the First Time

If you are interacting with a girl for the first time on a dating app, like Tinder or Bumble, start with a fun intro question like “is a hot dog a sandwich?” or “Alright, I’m here what are your two wishes?” The idea is to start with a fun thought-provoking question that will immediately start an interesting conversation.

Make sure that you are able to continue a conversation off of your initial conversation. For example, if you asked the question “is a hot dog a sandwich” and continue with “I love hot dogs, have you ever been to the hot dog shop around the corner?”

The idea is to start with a fun question to ignite a conversation, not just get an answer to the question and end the conversation there.

Following up After You’ve Met

If you’ve already met the girl in person and you got her number, then something a little more personal is appropriate. Mention something you spoke about when met or even the connection that caused you to interact and remind her of where you met.

For example, if you met a bar say something like “Hi Sarah, it was great meeting you at the bar last night, I bet it was hard getting up for your yoga class early this morning. How did it go?” It’s important to show her that you remember the conversation you had and continue working off what led you to get her number in the first place.

Whatever you do make sure to text her within 24 hours of getting her number. This is not the time to play coy or act disinterested as you want to show that you feel like you made a meaningful connection in person and are interested in pursuing it further.

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Flirting over text

Keeping the Conversation Going

A great introduction is the key to starting a great conversation, but that is only half of the battle. In order to keep a girl interested, you need to keep the conversation light, fun, and engaging.

Learn from Her Initial Response

You should not pre-plan your conversation with a girl. It will make for a boring, robotic conversation. Judge how the girl responds to your initial hello and then alter the conversation off of it. If you start with a fun pick-up line or a jest, and she doesn’t laugh, you might want to shift to a more serious tone.

Keep it Light and Playful

Texting is not the time for deep meaningful conversation. You want to strive to get a smile or chuckle out of every text you send. Taking an overly serious tone might get you friend-zoned or even have the girl associate conversations with you with negative emotions.

Keep it Positive

It’s fun to lightly tease a girl in a flirty way or even to make fun of yourself. However, you should stray away from being critical or negative. You want the girl to associate your conversations with positive emotions and to feel emboldened when they are talking to you.

Keep Your Texts Short

You don’t want to send paragraph-long messages to a girl you are trying to attract. They won’t read them, and they will lose interest in the conversation quickly. Keep your texts to three sentences max and stick to one topic at a time.

Proceed with Intimacy Cautiously

While the conversation should start off with little intimacy, you will want to get a little more intimate over time. Intimacy comes in two forms: getting to know each other on a deeper level and sexual intimacy.

As the girl gets more comfortable with you it’s good to ask more personal questions. This is a great way to keep the conversation interesting and build a stronger connection. Don’t push if the girl seems hesitant to respond to some personal question and this could ruin the relationship.

As long as the girl seems okay with it, sexual suggestions are a great way to keep the conversation fun and flirty. It will also keep you out of the friend zone.

You should never ask for sex or sexual favors outright. This will be an immediate turnoff. Your suggestions should be subtle, like “ I was taking a shower and started thinking about you ;).” This keeps the conversation playful, but not creepy.

Ending the Conversation

You don’t want to leave your conversation as a never-ending, ongoing conversation. This leaves you susceptible to being friend-zoned as the girl will start to think of you as someone she can go to with all of her problems.

Contrary to popular belief, girls don’t want to have a long-drawn-out texting conversation. If you are starting to sense that she is into you, ask her on a date as soon as possible and end the conversation at that. The mystery and suspense will get her excited about and leave her with something to look forward to.

As a general rule, try not to get too nervous and enjoy the conversation. Keeping the conversation fun, flirty and engaging will give you the best shot at successfully getting a girl to like you over text and ultimately lead to you landing the first date.

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