When it comes to women and relationships, are you tired of begging for attention? Do you feel like that sad dog at the pound that has yet to be adopted?
You desperately want to be loved and cherished, but they’re somehow just not responding to those soulful puppy-dog eyes of yours.
You feel desperate, clingy, and needy.
Those might be cute traits for a puppy to have. For guys, acting desperate is definitely not a good look.
We get that you’re not deliberately trying to come off as desperate. But if women are friend-zoning you, or avoiding you altogether, it’s probably because they think that you are pining for their attention.
If you are tired of begging for attention, it’s time you stop begging and make women want to give it to you.
How To Stop Begging For Attention From Women
1. Don’t Text Her Too Much
Blowing up a woman’s phone is a surefire way to both annoy her, and put yourself in the category of “desperate male.”
A good rule of thumb is to not text her more than twice in a row.
Mirror her texting style and respond to her in kind. Meaning that if you text her and she responds later with a one-word answer, do the same thing.
Don’t text her back immediately, and don’t send her a wall of text.
2. Get Comfortable Being Alone
Of course, you’re going to want to see, talk to and be with your crush every day, especially in the beginning of a relationship.
But smothering your crush is going to quickly stamp out whatever sparks may be getting started. And this can really hurt your chances of being with a girl, particularly if she is more independent.
Respect her space and get comfortable being independent yourself.
How to do this?
First, if you’re tired of begging for attention, stop.
Then, make yourself as busy as possible with your own interests so that she sees she isn’t the center of your whole world (even if you feel that way).
Take up a new class, sport, or hobby. Being busy will make you seem more attractive to her because you are out there living your life and not just waiting around for her to notice you.
3. Don’t Be Too Nice
You know that old saying “Nice guys finish last?” Well, it’s kind of true here. You can be kind and nice without being a doormat.
Don’t be an asshole, but don’t let yourself be taken advantage of either.
If you fall all over yourself complimenting the girl and insist on lavish gifts or paying for everything all the time, you’re likely to be put into the friend zone.
And you’re trying to avoid that.
Compliment her sincerely and sparingly, and offer to pay for some dates, but don’t overdo it and don’t be a pushover.
4. Don’t Be at Her Beck and Call
Do not always be immediately available to her.
It makes you look desperate and foolish if you haven’t heard from her for days, and immediately drop everything every time she suggests getting together.
While you don’t want to play mind games, you also need to tell this woman how you want to be treated by your actions and responses. And that includes setting healthy boundaries for yourself right from the outset.
Say your crush texts you and wants to meet for lunch that afternoon, but you haven’t heard from her in a week.
You want to see her, but you also don’t want to inadvertently send her the message that you don’t have a life of your own and that her behavior is acceptable to you.
A good response might be, “Sorry, I have plans for this afternoon, but let’s set something up for another time.”
This lets her know that you’re not just sitting around staring at your phone, waiting for her to contact you. You’re doing exactly what you should be doing when you’re tired of begging for attention.
Your level of self-respect is high enough that you don’t have to settle for her crumbs of attention and are willing to walk away from her with your confidence intact.
Those are not the behaviors of a desperate dude.
5. Let it Go
If you are really tired of begging for attention from women, you need to learn to let go.
Your happiness is quite literally an inside job, meaning it’s up to you and no one else to make yourself happy. Your happiness should not be dependent on the behaviors or actions of this girl.
Plus, why would you want to hang on to someone who makes you feel you have no value?
At some point, you are going to need to realize you’ll never get what you need from this woman and be prepared to let her go.
6. Don’t Neglect Your Friends
We’ve probably all been guilty of ditching our friends to go see a girl.
But nothing says “desperate” like repeatedly cancelling plans with your friends (especially last-minute) every time a woman asks to see you.
Not only is this rude and disrespectful, but in the end, you’re likely to lose your friends as well as the girl.
Your friends have probably been there for you through thick and thin, so make time for them.
Repeatedly ditching your buddies for a girl will only make them resent you, and no one likes playing second fiddle.
If you put your life on hold for your crush, it’ll give her an ego boost, but ultimately she won’t respect you.
When a woman loses respect, she loses interest.
7. Learn To Be Confident
Even if you’re not feeling confident, you can fake it ’til you make it.
Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Start exercising, take a class, join a hiking or walking group, take up a new hobby or sport. Spend time with loved ones and friends who boost your mood.
Immediately shut down any negative self-talk that starts creeping into your brain; instead, replace it with a positive thought or affirmation.
Confidence is supremely attractive to women. With time you’ll realize that you don’t need to suffer at the hands of women who mistreat you, use you, or can’t even give you the time of day.
You’ll bask in the knowledge that there are plenty of other girls out there who will be happy, willing, and ready to date and develop a relationship with you.
Women that want to make you a priority in their lives.
How To Stop Begging For Love In a Relationship
If your crush doesn’t respond to your texts or phone calls, stop texting and calling.
And if she never initiates communication, stop being the one to go first.
Stop giving her the opportunity to reject you. The less you reach out, the fewer opportunities she will have to make you beg.
Eventually, she will either become aware of your absence in her life, or you will realize that you can do much, much better.
Don’t wait for her to set up plans to get together. Go on with your life, make plans for yourself, and do what you want to do. If she wanted to spend time with you, she would have asked to plan a date together.
Realize that this woman is not the be-all and end-all of your universe.
Just because this relationship isn’t working out, doesn’t mean there isn’t someone out there who values you and your time.
When you keep begging for love, you will never know real, true love.
Someone else will love you the way you need to be loved. You won’t find her if you’re stuck in this miserable relationship.
Lastly, you must learn to love yourself. If you can see your self-worth and the value you have to offer to someone, you’ll begin to accept that you don’t have to beg for love from anyone.
A truly high-value man is aware of what he brings to the table, and you’ll be better able to tell when the right person comes along. More than that, you’ll be available for them when they do.
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Is it Right to Beg For Love?
No guy should have to beg for love from a woman. Ever.
If you find yourself on your knees, hands clasped together, begging for love from your partner, it’s pretty clear you are in a bad relationship.
Begging for affection and attention isn’t something you should ever have to do. It is a clear indicator that your woman is not as dedicated or “into you” as you need her to be.
There’s an imbalance of power in the relationship and your feelings for each other may not be mutual.
A healthy relationship should be a true partnership, where both partners are willing to work together, compromise, and resolve issues together.
If only one partner is putting any energy into doing this, the relationship is sure to fail – or at least to make you miserable.
Aside from making you miserable, lonely, and unfulfilled, there are many other reasons you should never beg for love. If you are begging her, it’s a sign that you aren’t her priority and probably never will be.
You’ve got to look out for number one – that is, you.
Especially when you’re tired of begging attention and love and you know it’s hurting you.
For your own happiness and well-being, you’re going to have to sever the ties of this unhappy one-sided relationship and move on.
Remember, you should never have to beg someone to treat you well and give you attention. It’s a losing battle. So save all that energy for a woman who will never have to be asked twice to show you affection.
You will never be too much for someone who can’t get enough of you. Read that again.
How to Stop Begging For Intimacy
You could try sitting down with your girl and explaining how the lack of physical affection and intimacy is making you feel.
You’re already tired of begging for attention in the other areas of your relationship. It’s unlikely that your lady is going to suddenly get it.
If she doesn’t want sex, she’s just not that into you.
If your partner isn’t giving you the things you need willingly, it isn’t your fault. Don’t beg her to do something she isn’t interested in.
Somewhere out there, someone is waiting for you who will be as equally dedicated to a relationship as you are.
The person who wants to be with you won’t leave you feeling like your self-worth is diminished. You will feel happy and fulfilled after spending time with them.
If you have to beg, it’s a bad relationship.
You can’t force someone to want you, and no amount of begging will change their mind. If this girl doesn’t want to give you love, attention, or sex now, she probably will never do.
People who are really attracted to each other will want to tear each other’s clothes off. If this isn’t happening for you right now, it’s unlikely to happen with this woman down the road.
Begging for intimacy in the relationship is, quite simply, just another sign that you are in the wrong relationship for yourself.
If you stay down there, groveling on your knees for the wrong person to love you, you’re going to miss out on meeting other women and finding the perfect girl when she finally does come along.
How to Deal With An Unaffectionate Partner
You’ve been knocking yourself out trying to gain your partner’s attention and affection, but she’s acting like an ice queen and is simply not responsive to your needs and desires. What to do now?
The answer is simple: You move on. It’s not easy, but the only solution.
You say goodbye and move on to your next relationship, difficult as that may be.
You’re not alone in feeling alone. Lots of guys think there is something wrong with them and that’s why they got rejected.
You might think that you wouldn’t get the boot if you were good-looking or successful or wealthy enough.
That is a LIE.
Every guy in this world has been rejected at least once and probably not for the last time in their life.
But here’s the difference between high-value guys and ones who have some work to do on their confidence. Men who value themselves will brush off the rejection and move on quickly, not letting it affect their self-esteem.
Meanwhile, low-value men often start doubting themselves, becoming insecure and paranoid.
If you feel like you are constantly begging for love and attention from your partner, you are in a bad relationship. You need to find it within yourself to walk away from her.
You deserve to have your feelings and actions reciprocated by your partner.
Spend time with people who give willingly of their time too – family and friends who love you and make you feel happy. Hold out for that special girl who values you and makes you a priority in her life.
The rest will fall into place.
Remember – kings never beg for anything! Hold your head high and adjust that crown.
Your queen is making her way to you, even if you can’t quite see her yet.
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