In today’s digital age, texting is becoming an increasingly common forum through which we get the know people. This goes for making new friends, connecting with existing ones and, perhaps most of all, building romantic relationships. While technology can be great in many ways, it can also lead to some confusion, especially if you have to ask yourself: “She stopped texting me out of nowhere. What do I do now?”
Many people run into this issue, so recognize first that you are not alone. Given how opaque technology can be, along with the different ways that people tend to communicate across these different technologies, reading this type of situation can be difficult. But do not worry, we have you covered. Below we will discuss what exactly it means when she stops texting, how you should respond, and why women ghost. Continue reading for all this information and more!
Why Did She Stop Texting Me Out of Nowhere?
Let us set the scene: you have been talking with a girl recently, perhaps for a few days or weeks intermittently. Maybe you saw each other casually once or twice, or perhaps you have not yet met up in person. Suddenly, everything goes silent on her end. You ask yourself: “She stopped texting me out of nowhere. What does that mean?” The fact of the matter is that this could mean any number of things. In this section, we will go through the various interpretations of what it means when she stops texting.
Note that there could be a variety of reasons that could be contributing to this, rather than just one. And it is entirely possible that the lack of communication has to do with a reason completely different that the ones listed below. Overall, however, the rationale tends to come down to some of these common reasons.
She Is No Longer Interested
If a girl stops texting you out of nowhere, one of the most common reasons is that she is no longer interested. This could be based on discussions you had across text message or meetups you had in person. It is entirely possible that she does not feel that the two of you are compatible together and therefore does not want to pursue the relationship any further.
This may be a difficult pill to swallow, especially if you had started developing feelings for her. However, it is important to recognize that breaking communications now, rather than later down the road when those feelings become stronger and the relationship is more serious, can save you a significant amount of wasted time and energy.
She Is Busy or Lacking Time
In another scenario, perhaps she is interested but is extremely busy or severely lacking in time. Something else could be going on in her life that is taking her attention away. Perhaps it is work-related or has to do with personal matters or something else that you may not be able to predict.
She may cut off communications because she simply does not have time to dedicate to pursuing a relationship with you, or anyone else for that matter! This is by no means excuse, but simply the reality of many relationships, especially those that are just starting out.
Until she has gotten to know you better and feels a mutual connection, only then might she think about dedicating more time to pursuing your relationship. And the same goes for you, especially if you are swamped with other obligations.
She is Not Great at Texting
Another possible explanation for her lack of response, albeit a weaker response relative to the two listed prior, is that she is not great at texting. Some girls are fantastic at texting, while others are not. And the same goes for guys as well! We all communicate in different ways, and many people out there simply do not use their phones much as a form of communication.
Despite this, however, a person that wants to put in the effort, will. So just because she may not be great at texting, this is not necessarily a reasonable excuse for dropping off the grid, especially if you both had an initial period of consistent communication across text. If she stopped texting you out of nowhere, her subpar texting skills are likely not the reason.
How To Respond When She Stops Texting Out of Nowhere
Now that you have an idea of the rationale behind what it might means when she stops texting, how exactly should you respond? Let us return to our original scenario where you have been talking with a girl for some time and suddenly everything goes silent on her end. You ask yourself: “She stopped texting me out of nowhere. I now know what that means, but what exactly should I do?”
There are some key steps you can take that will help you better understand potential rationale behind her lack of response and take action to see if it might still work out. The key in this situation is to have patience, however hard it might be. The dating world can be tricky, so having a willingness to give people the benefit of the doubt is good – but only up until a certain point, because you deserve someone who reciprocates your effort!
Step 1: Give It Time
If she stops texting you out of nowhere, then the first thing to do is to be patient and give it time. Everyone responds to messages at their own pace, and you never know if something urgent may have popped up that is taking her attention away from you.
How long should you wait? Well, that answer may vary based on the circumstances, but in general, giving it roughly two days should be enough time. After that, you will want to consider step 2.
Step 2: Follow Up
After giving ample time for her respond, you should follow up, assuming you are still interested in giving the relationship a chance and continuing to get to know her. Perhaps the rationale behind her lack of response is that she was extremely busy with another matter or is a poor texter.
If either of these are the reasons, then that means she could still be interested in you but just needs a reminder, especially if you have only begun to start talking. You can send a simple check-in asking how things are going, or perhaps sharing something you found funny or interesting. Her response after that (or lack of response) will be quite telling.
Step 3 (Optional): Follow Up Again
If you follow up with step 2 and still do not receive a response, you have one of two options. You can pursue an optional step 3, or you can move directly to step 4. Optional step 3 would be to follow up one more time, and this would probably be most pertinent if your relationship has already progressed to some extent (i.e. you have been texting a lot and/or have potentially met up in person a few times).
In this case, you may have already started to get invested in the relationship, so you may be willing to follow up one more time to see if she is interested. Make sure not to be pushy in your message, but you can send something along the lines of “trying one more time here,” as it indicates that you recognize she has not yet responded but are really seeking confirmation as to whether she is still interested.
Step 4: Move On
If you have not received a response, either from step 2 or step 3 depending on your personal feelings, the status of your relationship, and so on, then it is time to move on. This is, of course, much easier said than done, especially if you have started to feel a real connection and emotional investment in the relationship.
However, the fact of the matter is that people who are interested and willing to put in the effort required to build a relationship will do just that! It is important to remember that in any relationship you pursue, it is always a two-way street. One person should not be carrying the weight of the relationship or putting in all the effort, and you deserve a girl that will reciprocate your effort!
Why Women Ghost
You may be asking yourself: why do women even ghost in the first place? And the answer to this can be complicated, but the key thing to remember is that it ultimately comes down to communication. Some women will opt to “ghost” rather than saying their real reasoning in person because, for better or for worse, it is simply easier – especially with the advent of technology.
Women may ghost for any number of reasons. Perhaps they are not interested and do not want to hurt your feelings. Perhaps they are not ready for any sort of relationship but do not want to admit it. Unfortunately, you will never have a concrete answer, and it could be a combination of these reasons.
At the end of the day, you want to be with someone who puts in the same amount of time and effort that you do into developing the relationship. Someone that is unwilling to meet you halfway in that regard is probably not someone you want to be with long-term, no matter how hard of a pill that is to swallow in the moment. Be sure to remember what you deserve and go after that fearlessly.