Dating can seem like an endless parade of bad dates. You have the purest intentions of trying to find your soul mate, but it seems like every woman you date is just interested in a fling or is just searching for a reason to end things. Why is it so hard to find a good woman?
Unfortunately, there isn’t one straightforward answer. The reason you’re struggling to find a good woman is a combination of the need for instant gratification, unrealistic expectations, societal culture shifts, and how you are presenting yourself.
Let’s take a deeper look at some of the things that are making finding a good woman so hard and some tips to help you find the girl that you are looking for.
Factors Making it Hard to Find a Good Woman
You may be experiencing several of these factors when trying to find the perfect woman. As we go over them in detail, consider your experiences with these situations and contemplate how you can address them.
The Need for Instant Gratification
Social media and pop culture have led to a need for instant gratification. If we aren’t experiencing something that stimulates us, then we move on to something that does.
Nothing is more true than in the world of dating. One-night stands have become more popular than ever, individuals jump into relationships the second they meet, and love, at first sight, is preached as the beacon of true love.
In reality, finding a good woman takes time. You need to ride out the tough or non-stimulating periods to find your perfect soulmate.
Nobody is perfect. Males and females both have an idea of what their perfect soulmate looks like. However, no real-life person will ever live up to your idea of perfection. Learning to accept a woman’s flaws is an important step in finding a good woman.
Change in Societal Norms
Pop culture has presented us with the powerful, independent woman. Movies and TV shows highlight women who are career-driven and put relationships on hold. While individuality and feminism is not a bad thing, it has impacted women’s views on dating making it harder to settle down with someone.
Additionally, film and television show us women swooning over the “bad boy” archetype. In the movies and tv shows women “fix” them and turn them into good guys. In real life, this rarely happens. Making all of the good women want to go for bad guys with bad intentions.
How You Present Yourself
While society has changed relationships and women’s thinking on them, males have also been impacted by these changes. Where and how you meet a woman can impact your chances of meeting a good woman.
If you are trying to hook up with every girl you meet or relying on dating apps notorious for one-night stands, then chances are you won’t find a good woman.
How to Find a Good Woman to Marry
While the above factors may make it seem like it’s impossible to meet a good woman, it just takes a change in approach to find a good woman.
Everyone wants to meet their perfect match as soon as possible, but it’s important to not rush things. Finding someone is really about timing. You have to find someone who wants to and is ready to get married at the same time as you. On top of all that they also have to be a good fit for you.
You can’t force a relationship, or it will end in disaster. Take your time finding the right woman and you will find your happily ever after.
Adjust Your Expectations
While you should definitely be patient, you should not be overly picky. We are not suggesting that you settle for someone who is wrong for you, but it is important to consider what qualities in a woman are truly important.
The fantasy of the perfect woman that you have built in your head does not exist. A woman who is perfect for you does. Learn to accept the faults of a female that aren’t overly important to you and you will find a good woman to marry.
That’s it! Be patient and have realistic expectations. Eventually, you will find the woman that is right for you.